Question by alli.: How do I ask these things w/o sounding rude at my shower?
How do I ask for only organic products without sounding stuck up or rude?
I was thinking of adding something like “This baby’s going green!” to the shower invites but I don’t think that’s strong enough because I am really adverse to conventional items. For example, I only want glass baby bottles, BPA-free pacifiers, organic skincare/toys. I’m thinking about buying all the things I’m picky about myself just so things will be easier.
And how do I let people know not to buy diapers, formula, or baby food? These things seem inevitable but I simply have no need for them. I’m using cloth diapers (buying those myself). I’m going to breastfeed & puree my own baby food from my kitchen.
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Answer by shelly
its a baby shower you cant be to picky. just be glad your getting something/
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Explain that to them… you have to be assertive and not waste either their time and money or yours.
You could have whoever is hosting the party make the request. Good for you! I wish I thought of that…
Don’t sweat it. Register for what you want. If you get something else, consider the source: did 85-year-old Great-Aunt Ruby hand knit that blanket? Sure she used acrylic yarn instead of organic wool, but in that case, keep it and thank her profusely. Your extremely mainstream plastic-everything co-worker. Thank her and exchange it later. Most people don’t get formula and baby food for their shower. Keep the package of sposies on hand for emergencies–such as travel or the electricity out for days–and if your child outgrows them before they are used up, then give them away.
I think that is a creative way to do the invites.
Maybe find some recycled paper to design them and write “This baby’s going green! Let’s help make the earth a better place one baby at a time.” or something like that. Then maybe a list of “green” gifts for those who won’t understand exactly like what you mean. Maybe on the opposite page or back write “Suggested green gifts” or “Examples of green gifts” then just share what you wrote above.
I don’t think that sounds rude. A lot of people are doing that these days.
You love your baby and are doing your best to protect it.
Nothing is wrong with that.
dont have one then and buy everything yourself, you cant force me to buy you stuff, most people buy what they like and what they can afford, be glad people are coming to your shower. if you get the receipt then exchange it. People have been using “Non organic” items for years and we are alive. Ok see ya nicole ritchie…
Write it (going green) on your invitations and make a baby registry of specific items. Despite your efforts someone might still buy something not on your list. You can always return, exchange, or donate it.
Tell people you are only breast feeding and using cloth diapers. Most people I know don;t buy baby food for showers – way too early to think or buy that!!!
Register at a store like Babies R Us, who has actually recently “gone green” more than any other chain. They are carrying tons of organic(summer infant did a whole bunch of new bedding and supplies), cloth and glass stuff now. Once you are registered there it is much easier to return things for store credit and get the organic things you prefer. I never had a problem, especially with unopened diapers. Also on the bottom of the invite put “____ is registered at Babies R Us under #12345″ and that way some will actually use it. If you get items from other stores and you cannot return them why not sell them on craigslist or donate them to a shelter?
Sorry, that isn’t going to work. Consider having your hostess mention to guests that you really need clothing or handmade items only because you are using cloth diapers and will be breastfeeding. You can certainly register for specific stuff at Target and ONLY those items you want at Target. Buy the other stuff yourself (that way you will have the right stuff).
Going ‘organic’ sounds like you won’t accept the afghan I made for you. That’s the problem with your wording. If you are really picky, consider canceling the baby shower and just let family buy you whatever gifts they buy.
I like your idea for the invite. Make the front cute and then be a little more forward on the back or something, saying you only want glass bottles, etc.. Also, register for EXACTLY what you want. If you tell people you only want what’s on your registry and give them leeway with some organic clothing, you’ll be fine. Heck, worse comes to worse, you’ll get a gift receipt and you can return/exchange what you don’t like.
Have the host mention it to the guests. That’s her place to do it, not yours – It’s not rude coming from her. Even with that, some people will still get whatever they want, they don’t really care what you asked for
Most people don’t buy stuff like pacifiers (i think they’re all BPA free now anyway), formula (that’s actually insulting, to assume a mother isn’t going to even try to breastfeed) or baby food (you’re a long way away from needing it) – these are all things mom makes the choice about, not others. Anything else (diapers, bottles, toys etc), you can always exchange – Toys r us takes returns without receipts, as does Walmart.
Make a registry with the items that you want on it. Therefore they know you are expecting “Green” and it is up to them if they want to buy it or make it a hassel and have you return the items later.
I would assume most people would know if you were this earthy crunchy. For those who don’t I’d consider printing up invitations on papers with peace signs, tie dye, etc.
Seriously.
Just accept any gift, if they are not what you want/ need put them in the cupboard and bring them out when they visit, as for disposable nappies either keep them for times that it may be difficult to use cloth nappies i.e long road trips or if you are sooo against them donate them to a hospital for mums who are less fortunate then you to have these options, People don’t generally give formula but that can be donated too, and your baby wont need baby food till 6months + so i doubt anyone will give you any but in such case donate it again, It wont hurt to put it on the invite but, but make sure your invites are made from scrap materials to really emphasis the point!