Question by Marcy T: Would it be rude if I suggest certain brands of baby products to people buying a shower gift for me?
I am pregnant with my 4th child and I don’t really need much as far as baby clothes and gear are concerned, but my mother in law wants to have a small diaper and bath shower for the baby. My dilemma is that this time around I want to avoid using regular bath products as I have recently heard news stories about the chemicals in them being harmful to little babies. I would prefer using natural/organic products but they do cost more. Would it be rude of me to tell everyone that I would prefer they buy those product instead? I would hate for people to buy the regular stuff only to waste their money because I won’t use it.
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Answer by JJ123
I think that if you absolutely won’t use whatever they buy, then it wouldn’t be rude to let them know. But make sure you give them the reasons you just gave us, so they don’t think you’re just trying to get a more expensive gift.
What do you think? Answer below!
Just tell them to buy organic baby products, that isn;t rude as it is an environmental issue too.
I don’t think it’s rude at all – as you say, you would rather their gifts be used and appreciated rather than thrown out. This is what your guests would feel also – that their gift to you and baby is well-used and found useful! :] I personally would find it most interesting to know more about the reports you’ve been hearing. That’s a great way into being polite – through bringing up the story in some way and relating that back to the products you intend to use for baby.
I don’t think it’s rude, after all that’s what a registry is for, however I’d tell your mother in law and let her be the one that tells people. If she is hosting the shower, then she’d be the one that people would call anyway. Right?
Well, you have three options here. You can not say anything and just return what people buy you. You can say something and get what you want. Or, you can create a small registry to help people out. I don’t see anything wrong with creating a small registry. That way people know what you want.
tell your mother in law to put on the invites only organic and please include receipts!
that way you don’t look bad, and she looks like a really caring grandma, who only wants the best organic for her grandaughter, and daughter in law.
In the invitations, can your MIL mention something about “going green/organic” for the shower items? If it’s worded tastefully, I don’t think it would be offensive at all. Also, Babies R Us has a great return policy, so even if you don’t have a receipt, you can still return items there.
Good luck!